10 Good Parenting Tips

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Parenting is not easy.Good parenting is hard work.

How To Be A Good Parent?

What makes a good parent?

A good parent strives to make decisions in the best interest of the child.A good parent doesn’t have to be perfect. No one is perfect.No parent is perfect.No child is perfect either … keeping this in mind is important when we set our expectations.But it doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t work towards that goal.Set high standards for ourselves first and then our children second. We serve as a role model to them.

Here are 10 tips on learning effective parenting skills.

Many of them are not quick nor easy. And probably no one can do all of them all of the time.

But if you can keep working on them, even though you may only do part of these some of the time, you will still be moving in the right direction.

#1 Modeling

Walk the walk. Don’t just tell your child what you want them to do. Show them.Human is a special species in part because we can learn by imitation. We  are programmed to copy other’s actions to understand them and to incorporate them into our own. Children in particular watch everything their parents do very carefully.

#2: Loving

Show your love.There is no such thing as loving your child too much. Loving them cannot spoil them.Only what you choose to do (or give) in the name of love can — things like material indulgence, leniency, low expectation and over-protection. When these things are given in place of real love, that’s when you’ll have a spoiled child.Loving your child can be as simple as giving them hugs, spending time with them and listening to their issues seriously.

#3: Positive Parenting

Babies are born with around 100 billion brain cells (neurons) with relatively little connections. These connections create our thoughts, drive our actions, shape our personalities and basically determine who we are. They are created, strengthened and “sculpted” through experiences across our lives.Give your child positive experiences. They will have the ability to experience positive experiences themselves and offer them to others.Give your child negative experiences. They won’t have the kind of development necessary for them to thrive.

#4: Being A Safe Haven

Let your child know that you’ll always be there for them by being responsive to the child’s signals and sensitive to their needs. Support and accept your child as an individual. Be a warm, safe haven for your child to explore from. Children raised by parents who are consistently responsive tend to have better emotional development, social development and mental health outcomes.

 

#5: Communicating And Integrating

Most of us already know the importance of communication. Talk to your child and also listen to them carefully.By keeping an open line of communication, you’ll have a better relationship with your child and your child will come to you when there’s a problem.But there’s another reason for communication — you help your child integrate different parts of his/her brain.Integration is similar to our body in which different organs need to coordinate and work together to maintain a healthy body.When different parts of the brain are integrated, they can function harmoniously as a whole, which means less tantrums, more cooperative behavior and more empathy.

#6: Reflecting

Many of us want to parent differently from our parents. Even those who had a happy childhood may want to change some aspects of how they were brought up.But very often, when we open our mouths, we speak just like our parents did.Reflecting on our own childhood is a step towards understanding why we parent the way we do.Make note of things you’d like to change and think of how you’d do it differently in real scenario. Try to be mindful and change your behavior the next time those issues come up.

#7: Your Own Well-Being

Pay attention to your own well-being.Often times, things such as your own health or the health of your marriage are kept on the back burner when a child is born. If you don’t pay attention to them, they will become bigger problems down the road.Take good care of yourself physically and mentally. Take time to strengthen the relationship with your spouse. If these two areas fails, your child will suffer, too.

#8: No Spanking

No doubt, to some parents, spanking can bring about short-term compliance which sometimes is a much needed relief for the parents.However, this method doesn’t teach the child right from wrong. It only teaches the child to fear external consequences. The child is then motivated to avoid getting caught instead.Spanking your child is modeling to your child that he/she can resolve issues by violence.

#9: Keeping Perspective

What is your goal in raising a child?If you’re like most parents, you want your child to do well in school, be productive, be responsible and independent, enjoy meaningful relationships with you and others, be caring and compassionate, and have a happy, healthy and fulfilling life.

#10: Take A Shortcut

By shortcuts, I don’t mean shortchanging your child. What I mean is to take advantage of what are already known by scientists.Parenting is one of the most researched fields in psychology.Many parenting practices or traditions have been scientifically researched, verified, refined or refuted.

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